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Social pressure and debt: how to manage it

Posted on 8 January 2025

Written by Ashvin Sharma

Debt can feel overwhelming on its own, but when social pressure is added to the mix, managing finances becomes even more challenging. Whether it’s keeping up with friends’ lifestyles, attending expensive events, or buying gifts beyond your means, societal expectations can push you into financial strain. Understanding how to navigate these pressures is key to staying in control of your money and reducing stress. In this guide, we share our top recommendations for managing social pressure and debt.

Understanding the link between social pressure and debt

Social pressure often leads to spending beyond your means. Common scenarios include:

  • Keeping up with peers: feeling the need to match friends’ spending habits, such as dining at expensive restaurants or taking lavish vacations.
  • Cultural obligations: spending on weddings, holidays, or family gatherings to meet societal expectations.
  • Fear of missing out (FOMO): overspending to participate in activities or buy items to feel included.
  • Social media influence: comparing yourself to curated lifestyles showcased online, leading to unnecessary spending.

Acknowledging these influences is the first step in taking control.

Tips for managing social pressure and debt

If you’re concerned about how to combat social pressure and avoid getting into debt, here are our top recommendations based on our experiences of helping Canadians get out of debt for over 35 years.

Set clear financial boundaries

It’s essential to prioritize your financial goals over external pressures. Communicate your limits clearly and confidently to friends and family. For example, suggest affordable alternatives to pricey plans, such as hosting a potluck instead of dining out.

Track your spending

Keep tabs on where your money goes. Tools like Spergel’s budgeting tool can help you identify patterns and ensure you’re not overspending to meet social expectations.

Practice saying ‘no’

Learning to decline invitations or purchases that don’t align with your financial goals is empowering. Remember, true friends will respect your choices.

Create a fun budget

Allocate a portion of your budget for social activities to enjoy guilt-free spending. Knowing you’ve planned for these expenses can reduce the stress of saying yes.

Focus on long-term goals

Keep your financial objectives in mind when faced with short-term temptations. Whether it’s saving for a home, paying off debt, or building an emergency fund, your goals are worth the sacrifice.

Limit social media consumption

Social media often showcases the highlight reels of others’ lives, not the reality. Limiting your exposure can help reduce the pressure to spend.

What to do when debt is already an issue

If social pressure has contributed to significant debt, it’s crucial to address it head-on:

  • Assess your debt: list all your debts, including interest rates and minimum payments, to understand the full picture.
  • Seek professional help: organizations like Spergel specialize in debt relief, offering customized solutions to get you back on track.
  • Avoid further debt: create a budget to prevent additional borrowing and stick to it.

Social pressure and debt: FAQs

Here are some of the most common questions we receive about social pressure and debt:

What is the social impact of debt?

The social impact of debt can be significant, leading to increased social pressure as individuals may feel stigmatized or embarrassed by their financial struggles. This pressure can lead to withdrawal from social interactions, strained relationships, and a sense of isolation. Moreover, debt may prevent individuals from participating in social activities, reinforcing feelings of exclusion and exacerbating mental health challenges, such as anxiety and depression. Take a look at the findings from our recent study on Debt Load and Mental Health to learn more. Addressing debt through solutions like those offered by Spergel can help alleviate some of these pressures, enabling individuals to regain financial stability and social wellbeing.

What are the effects of social pressure?

The effects of social pressure can be profound, often leading to anxiety, stress, and a diminished sense of self-worth. Individuals may feel compelled to conform to societal expectations, which can result in unhealthy behaviours such as overspending, overworking, or neglecting personal wellbeing. Social pressure can also contribute to mental health struggles, like depression and anxiety, as people may fear judgment or rejection. Over time, these effects can strain relationships, reduce life satisfaction, and hinder personal growth or financial stability.

What is debt pressure?

Debt pressure refers to the intense stress and anxiety individuals experience when they struggle to manage or repay their debts. It can stem from the constant worry of falling behind on payments, the fear of financial consequences, or the burden of mounting interest rates. This pressure often leads to feelings of helplessness, frustration, and a diminished sense of control over your financial situation. Over time, debt pressure can take a toll on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, making it difficult to focus on other aspects of life.

Managing social pressure and debt is challenging, but it’s possible with the right strategies. By setting boundaries, tracking your spending, and focusing on your goals, you can take control of your finances and break free from the cycle of overspending. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your wellbeing and financial health over societal expectations. If you’re struggling with debt, Spergel is here to help – reach out today to explore your options.

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Ashvin Sharma

Ashvin Sharma

Ashvin Sharma is a Chartered Insolvency and Restructuring Professional and LIT (Licensed Insolvency Trustee) overseeing all of Spergel's offices in the Greater Vancouver Area and British Columbia. He is also our resident expert on homeownership debt and health debt. In his spare time, Ashvin loves to play sports, spend time with family and friends, and serves as a volunteer coordinator for "Free-Them", a Canadian organization committed to raising awareness about human trafficking.

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